5 Cov cim qhia tias koj tab tom nrog Narcissist

Ob peb xyoos dhau los, kev xav tsis thoob tau dhau los ua lo lus zais thiab yog ib feem ntawm peb cov lus niaj hnub. Muaj kev xav paub ntau ntxiv txog cov neeg quav yeeb quav tshuaj thiab yuav ua li cas ib tus tuaj yeem "pom" lossis rov zoo los ntawm kev sib raug zoo nrog ib tus, thiab ntau txoj haujlwm uas kuv ua cuam tshuam nrog txhawb cov tib neeg uas tawm mus, taug kev, lossis kho los ntawm kev tsim txom kev sib raug zoo nrog tus neeg quav yeeb quav tshuaj.

Ua ntej peb nkag mus rau kev sib tham nrog tus neeg narcissist zoo li cas, nws yog qhov tseem ceeb rau kev sib txawv ntawm "narcissist" (tus neeg uas muaj tus cwj pwm tsis nyiam tus kheej) los ntawm ib tus neeg uas muaj tus yam ntxwv tsis zoo. Piv txwv li, qee tus neeg yuav nquag tso lawv cov kev xav tau ua ntej, muaj lub sijhawm nyuaj nrog kev xav, lossis nyiam ntseeg lossis hais tias lawv ib txwm ua raug. "Narcissistic" tab sis tseem tuaj yeem muaj peev xwm (tej zaum nrog qee qhov coaxing) los qhia kev nkag siab thiab kev khuv leej thiab lees paub lawv qhov ua yuam kev thiab ua tsis tau.

Narcissistic tus cwj pwm tsis zoo yog zaj dab neeg sib txawv. Ib tus neeg uas muaj teeb meem no, ntawm DSM-5, muaj "kev xav zoo ntawm tus kheej qhov tseem ceeb." Hauv lwm lo lus, lawv muaj kev nkag siab yuam kev ntawm qhov ua tau zoo thiab ntseeg tiag tiag tias lawv sib txawv los ntawm txhua tus neeg. Lawv taug kev hauv ntiaj teb thiab kev sib raug zoo raws li kev xav tias lawv tshwj xeeb thiab nyob hauv nruab nrab ntawm lub qab ntuj khwb. Lawv xav tias tsim nyog los qhuas thiab siv tau thiab nrhiav kev qhuas los ntawm lwm tus. Lawv tham tsis kawg txog lawv tus kheej thiab lawv qhov ua tiav (lossis qhov lawv ntseeg tias yog lawv li kev ua tiav). Lawv tsis muaj kev nkag siab zoo thiab yuav tswj hwm thiab tsim txom lwm tus rau lub hom phiaj ua haujlwm rau tus kheej thiab txhawm rau ntxiv dag zog thiab txhawb lawv tus kheej. Cov yam ntxwv ntawm tus kheej no tsis tu ncua, thiab lawv tus cwj pwm thiab txoj kev xav tau raug kho.

Yog li, yos ib tus narcissist tsis taug kev ntawm lub puam. Lawv tsis qhib rau kev hloov pauv thiab yuav tsis ntseeg tias lawv ua tsis raug. Lawv yuav tsis nrhiav kev pab vim lawv tsis ntseeg tias lawv xav tau kev pab, lossis lawv tsis xav tau. Lawv tsis tuaj yeem muaj laj thawj lossis sib cav nrog vim tias lawv tsis txaus siab rau kev sib tham lossis sib tham. Yeej, lawv yog leej twg, thiab, txawm hais tias koj tau siv zog zoo tshaj plaws, koj yuav tsis tuaj yeem hloov pauv lawv lossis ua rau lawv xav lossis ua qhov txawv.

Nov yog 5 lub cim qhia tias koj tab tom tham nrog ib tus neeg hais lus ncaj ncees:

1. Zoo heev charismatic. Tej zaum lawv yuav ntxim nyiam heev lossis ntxim nyiam thaum xub thawj. Lawv nyiam mus nrhiav kev sib raug zoo nrog kev siv zog ntau thiab yuav ua lossis hais txhua yam nws yuav siv los "yeej" koj. Lawv feem ntau yuav ua kom zoo ntxiv thiab ua pov thawj. Tab sis yog tias koj muaj kev xav tias "nws ntau dhau, sai dhau" lossis ntseeg tias kev sib raug zoo tau hloov pauv yam tsis tas yuav nrawm, feem ntau yuav yog. Narcissists yog tus coj thiab yuav ua lossis hais "txhua yam raug" los ua tus khub. Tom qab lawv "tau" koj, lawv feem ntau yuav tig qhov hloov pauv.
2. Tsim txom. Lawv tuaj yeem ua phem - kev xav, lub cev, lossis ob qho tib si. Feem ntau qhov kev tsim txom yog qhov hloov maj mam, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog thaum xub thawj, uas nws yuav luag tsis tuaj yeem tshawb pom. Qee lub sij hawm nws yog nyob rau hauv daim ntawv me me tso rau ntawm no lossis nyob ntawd; lwm lub sijhawm, nws yog kev thuam lossis tso dag ntawm koj cov nuj nqis. Lawv yuav liam koj lossis liam koj ntawm yam uas tsis tau tshwm sim tiag tiag. Lawv yuav sim siv koj qhov "tsis muaj zog" lossis qhov tsis muaj zog tiv thaiv koj los ntawm kev dag thiab lwm yam kev dag ntxias.
3. Roj teeb. Lawv yuav tsis lav ris rau ib yam dab tsi. Yog tias koj sim hu lawv tawm ntawm lawv cov kev coj ua tsis raug cai, lawv yuav tsis lees paub qhov kev liam lossis ua pov thawj lawv tus cwj pwm los ntawm kev liam nws rau koj. Lawv yuav ua lub hom phiaj sim ua rau koj xav tias "vwm" thiab koj yuav pib nug koj li kev txiav txim siab.
4. Ob-ntsej muag. Lawv zoo ntawm kev dag. Lawv muaj "Dr. Jekyll thiab Mr. Hyde ”tus kheej. Lawv tuaj yeem nthuav tawm zoo li tsis txaus ntseeg thiab zoo siab nrog lwm tus thiab hauv zej zog, tab sis tom qab ntawd ua siab phem thiab ua siab ncaj rau lawv tus khub tom qab kaw qhov rooj. Thiab lawv yuav txiav txim siab tus cwj pwm no thiab ua zoo li nws yog "zoo" lossis "zoo ib yam."
5. Raug rho tawm. Lawv lub hom phiaj sim cais koj los ntawm lwm tus kom muaj kev tswj hwm koj thiab kev sib raug zoo. Lawv yuav hais kom siv sijhawm ntau nrog koj - nyob deb ntawm phooj ywg thiab tsev neeg. Lawv yuav ua txhua yam nws yuav siv los yaum koj ua ntej lawv thiab kev sib raug zoo thiab ua txhaum rau koj rau kev xav lossis ua lwm yam. Koj tuaj yeem pom koj tus kheej xav tias ua txhaum thaum koj tsis nrog lawv lossis xav tias muaj lub luag haujlwm los mob siab rau tag nrho koj lub sijhawm thiab lub zog rau lawv, txawm tias nws tsis yog yam koj xav ua tiag.

Yog tias ib qho ntawm cov chij liab no cuam tshuam nrog koj lossis zoo li txhua tus paub dhau, txheeb xyuas nrog koj tus kheej thiab ntsuas kev noj qab haus huv ntawm koj kev sib raug zoo. Nug koj tus kheej: Puas yog koj qhov kev xav tau ntsib? Tus neeg no feem ntau ua rau koj zoo siab rau koj tus kheej? Koj puas muaj tus kheej thiab kev nkag siab ntawm tus kheej sab nraud ntawm kev sib raug zoo? Koj tus khub puas lav ris rau lawv cov kev ua?

Yog tias koj teb "tsis yog" tsawg kawg ib ntawm cov lus nug no, nws tsis pom zoo kom tos tus kws hais plaub los hloov lossis rau yam kom zoo dua. Koj tsim nyog tau txais kev sib raug zoo raws kev hwm sib hwm, thiab tus khub uas yuav ua haujlwm nrog koj, tsis tawm tsam koj.

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